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Table for Two – Chapter 11

Table for Two – Chapter 11

November 6-9, 1974 –  What’s in a Name?

T-Squared Energy Connections[i]

 

“No Gladys, I can’t let you do it. You want to name the baby for your mother. I understand. Ruth is a fine middle name. If Ruth is her first name, I can hear the teasing now. The first time she cries at school her nickname will be Cry Baby Ruth. Kids can be mean.  Let’s not start her out in life with a built-in obstacle.”chapter-11-name-2

Sitting outside Table, for Two, Gladys sipped her coffee and took a deep breath before responding.

“I don’t want to fight about naming our baby. What do you suggest, Jerry?”

“Let’s find a meaningful name kids can’t turn into something hurtful. If we keep Ruth as a middle name, her last two initials would be RT. What are your grandmothers’ names? Perhaps one if them would work.”

chapter-11-baby-name“Margaret on my mom’s side and Helen on my dad’s. Margaret Ruth Taylor sounds like an old lady to me. Helen Ruth doesn’t do anything for me either. Aunt Irma made me promise not to use her name. She’s never liked it much. We could name her for someone in your family Jerry.”

Jerry swallowed the last bite of a pumpkin spice muffin, “The way my grandmother tells the story, to keep everyone happy, she named my mom Reese Irene Thelma Agnes. It kept the peace until Mom changed her name to Rita, an acronym for all those bad, baby names.  After that, no one was happy.”

“I never heard that story. No wonder she goes by Rita. Sounds like we are better off not offending anybody by naming the baby after a family member. If we choose a name beginning with A, her initials will be ART. Why don’t you read through the baby name book again?  The hospital won’t let us take her home until we decide on something.”

After suggesting half a dozen names, Jerry asked, “How do you like Alysa? It means princess, in Greek.”

“Alysa Ruth Taylor. I love it. She is our little princess. Our miracle baby.”

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“Hello Alysa. I’m your Great Aunt.”

Rocking and cradling the infant, Irma gently stroked the baby’s head. Alysa latched on to Irma’s finger and found a permanent place in her heart.

“I’ve waited a long time to hold you. You are so special. Mommy and daddy waited almost two years for the agency call telling them of a match. When they met you and your birth father at the hospital, it was love at first sight.”

“Alysa, you and I are going to have so much fun together. Your mommy is going to work part-time for a while.  As a State representative, daddy is going to make sure the world is safe for his little princess.  You and I will get along royally.”

Gladys stepped into the nursery as Alysa slipped off to sleep.

“We have a lot to be thankful for this year, Irma. What a perfect Christmas gift. We’ll put a crown on your head, Alysa, and call it a day. I have everything I want.”

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“Surprise!”

Sadie’s hand went to her chest, her eyes opened wide; she gazed around the room. Her friends had taken over T-Squared to give her a surprise bridal shower.

Sadie took the seat of honor at the head of the table. Her sister Lucy walked around the corner carrying a tray of rolls.

Sadie stood, pushing the chair away with the back of her legs. The twins embraced.

“What are you doing here? When did you get in from France? Where are you staying?”

“There will be lots of time to catch up later. As your Maid of Honor, I wasn’t about to miss your shower.”

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After lunch dishes were cleared away, Lucy passed paper and pencils around the table.

“Knowing how you hate party games, dear sister, I designed this one especially for you. Here’s how it works…

“On the paper going around is everyone’s name with an acronym next to it. In the blank next to the acronym, write what you think it means.”

“For example, next to my name is SOTB. Who can guess what that stands for?”

“Correct Irma, sister of the bride.”

“Whoever gets the most acronyms right wins the game and a prize.

“There is also a prize for anyone who guesses what Sadie’s name will be after she marries. We all know she is marrying Steven Green. Will she change her name from Abrams?  Will she combine both last names with a hyphen?  Or will she keep her name as is?  Only the bride to be knows.”

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Carol, head chef for T-Squared, won the prize for the identifying all the acronyms. Each guest shared her idea about Sadie’s new name.

“Well Sadie, did anyone get it right?”

“One person guessed correctly. ”

“I want to keep my name as is, Sadie Elaine Abrams. Steven says he doesn’t care, but his family is more traditional. They think I should become Sadie Abrams Green, making my initials SAG instead of SEA. No way I’m living with SAG the rest of my life.

“As a compromise, I will be Sadie Elaine Abrams-Green. I keep my name, more or less, and the Green name will live on.”

“No matter what the paperwork says, I will still be Sadie.  Or you can refer to me as Princess, the Hebrew meaning of Sadie.  That’s what my father always calls me.”

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[i] T-Squared – In astrological charts the t-square configuration is a dynamic pattern that links and inter-locks energies. It can be seen in the major events, challenges, and themes that are encountered in life.

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All Words Matter

All Words Matter

Words we speak, words we don’t say out loud and words we put in writing, they all matter. 

I would like to address the ‘actions speak louder than words’ elephant in the room.  Actions are important, no question.  Couldn’t agree more.

 “Action speaks more powerfully than words, but when you use words as your actions, you probably won’t stop talking.”  “When all is said and done, more is always said than done.”  “People may not tell you how they feel about you, but they always show you. Pay attention.” http://elitedaily.com

That said, what about words?

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Words we say out loud matter

Words can lift us up.  Words can comfort us in difficult times.  Words can make us feel understood.

Words can cut like a knife.  Words can erode our self-esteem.  Words can be a form of abuse.

Words are often the weapon of choice for a bully.

Words can inform.  Words can teach.  Words can foster understanding.

Words can express joy or disappointment.

Words can encourage.  Words can discourage.

Words are open to interpretation of the receiver.

Words can be fact-based or totally fiction.

Words can lead or mislead.

Words can ask for forgiveness and words can forgive.

Words can get you hired.  Words can get you fired.

Words communicate our thoughts, feelings and beliefs.

Words are a verbal expression of who we are.

 

“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.”  Yehuda Berg

 

Words we don’t say matter

A look or a sigh can express as much as any number of words strung together.

A smile, a squinty eyed glare, the lift of an eyebrow, a comforting touch on the arm all speak volumes.

Silence may be the appropriate response.  Silence can hang in the air like a thick fog.

Gestures can represent s specific word or a general feeling.

Non-verbal clues reveal our intention.

A non-response can be a powerful response.

Good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, be it personal or professional. It’s important to recognize, though, that it’s our nonverbal communication—our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice—that speak the loudest.  Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., Melinda Smith, M.A., Greg Boose, and Jaelline Jaffe, Ph.D. Last updated: October 2016.  http://www.helpguide.org/

Commonly used statistics

  • Words (the literal meaning) account for 7% of the overall message
  • Tone of voice accounts for 38% of the overall message
  • Body Language accounts for 55% of the overall message

http://www.bodylanguageexpert.co

The words we say and the words we don’t say matter.
There is no such thing as, “It’s just words.” 

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